Hi Joann,

You have me curious. You said of your daughter...

"How could someone so close to me not see the real me? I didn't react and will not defend. I will be very curious. How did they come to this conclusion? What in my expression suggests I'm not living to the fullest?"

Did you ask her why she thought that way?
I'm assuming not.

If you had have done, I'm pretty sure you would have been afforded an opportunity to explore her value system with her - on what basis she makes that judgment.

Often the reason we don't respond this way, is because the judgment actually strikes a place of self-judgment. So the statement goes inside and gets stuck in some loop of exploration (one might feel small or embarrassed for example). But without the self-judgment, the inquiry doesn't get stuck - we open into the place of infinite potential. The truth then effortlessly explores from where the judgment came and why.

Just a thought

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