There is much responsibility lied upon the 'healer's' shoulders indeed, but two are needed for tango :)

Those who come to ask for healing/help/advice, etc are not less responsible for what is going on than a healer.

I'll share both of my perspectives.

Why do I go and ask for help? Because I want to get rid of pain? Because I feel I can't do it on my own? Because I want it to go the easy way? Never. I feel many times these pulls, but the only time when I go to any kind of session is when I feel I have no other choice. I am just being brought there.

Here for me the most important thing is not to let the mind rationalise why I am there and what I am there for. This question is usually asked: why are you here? what do you expect?

This is the time for both me and whoever I was being brought to contact to feel it all out and see what's going on.

For me there are no expectations. I never know why I am there. But I have to say something, right? So I am just saying whatever is coming up. Sometimes it has nothing to do with what really bothers me in my life at that moment.

In addition, others can do as as much as we allow to. And we all can always say that we don't want it, whatever is happening and that it doesn't feel right. It is OUR responsibility.

From the perspective of 'healers' it is just the same. There is no other person to be helped outside. Usually, I find, there is a reason why people meet for BOTH parties. And even if it was created by distortion, since the universe is adapting, it soon becomes another opportunity to learn. There is always something to learn. If we keep in mind that whatever is happening is a learning experience for ourselves, then it can help not to get too lost in this healing role.

I myself find it a bit hard, because even a clear and pure state becomes owned by ego just so fast and turns to another identity.

About energies transferring - I am never sure what energy I am dealing with (yet anyway), be it myself or somebody else, unless I just connect with my own soul. But then how can I 'heal'? So I really resonate with what Trin and Chris say. It is just being me, connecting with my own energy and by this creating a field, which then can induce resonance within anybody who is close to it.

It doesn't have to be a healing session. I do it when I am on the bus, at the bus stop. I did it when I was dancing at the techno party, etc etc

And people are SO sensitive. They all know when you are being authentic and when you are not, when you become an identity playing itself authentic (soul-like, void-like, etc). They know it! So be sure, that if a person allowed a healer to channel, heal, interfere, etc they knew very well what they are doing and what is going on, which doesn't mean you are not responsible, of course. It is again good old mirroring. You just can't run away from it :D

And another thing is that maybe the 'wrong' way of healing was meant to happen for one or both people to learn from it and realise. It is great to theorise, but when you do it, you really learn and other things may get triggered, like guilt, fear to try again, etc.

So I decided for myself that I will be as honest, as careful and as responsible as I can, but I won't put myself into some theoretic box of "don't do this or that" because it is wrong. Sometimes doing the wrong thing is the right thing. I can never know what and why my soul will bring me do. I am following, keep aware and seeing what is activated for ME and what to do with it. It is hard enough.

And in this sense healing is not any different from all the rest of what we do: exploring ourselves in all circumstances, finding who we are NOW and expressing it as clearly as possible, and if it is not enough - all these without effort and wanting to do it all right hhhhh