Yes absolutely another distortion of mine is projecting my anger and blame onto others when i can absolutely see that where i am is no one's fault but my own. Projecting is a low way of transferring the pain of my shame away from myself when i should be processing it and unravelling it instead. And i never fully realised it but you're right about the BS reacting to the unsconsious anger. i use disassociation as another defense mechanism and that's when i always fall down the rabbit hole of old unconscious reactions. i've got to work on that presence! And not only the boundaries but not giving myself away in the first place. Thank you for this gift Richard, i want you to know how appreciative i am of not only being seen but of being understood. 💙💙💙🙏