Hi Open, thanks. I just read again the 'What Spiritual "Empaths" and "Catalysts" might Learn From Each Other' thread.

Yes, she has many fight/flight mechanisms and seems to have an unconscious victim mentality. When conflict arises, no matter what I say, I always end up being the oppressor. Ironically, her victimization has made me angry (aka the "oppressor") several times — which is something I do work with now to act in a more compassionate way. But that doesn't mean she doesn't get angry either, she actually does more often than I do, but it's almost impossible for her to recognize it.

Our conflict-reflections are always very clear and most of the time "inevitable". I feel like I was born to hurt her, even though most of the time I'm really just trying to help her out.

She's very depressed now and there's almost nothing I can say, but I will eventually tell her about setting more effective boundaries and doing things her way. I don't know if she takes on the feelings of others as their own, but when she gets hurt it's never a small wound. It's always a F huge wound and she's tired of that to the point of not wanting to live anymore.

I can't tell you about the intervention, I don't know...

But we feel hopeless because science says that borderline disorder is incurable. So although one part of me knows we're all energy beings able to self-actualize (in that sense, there's no such thing as "mental disorder"), another part of me feels sorry to know that some physical limitations (in this case, brain related) can prevent some people to live their full potential. I don't know which one is right... you do?