Losing and recovering your Twin Flame from Relationship
Thu, 04/20/2017 - 06:20
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Hi Faye - my heart goes out to you - know that you are not alone *give_rose*
One of the biggest challenges by far on the spiritual path (and therefore one of the greatest opportunities), is getting to know your Twin Flame. When the soul comes into the manifest, it notionally separates into two: one part (your Twin Flame) stays near the source, inside of you, but then manifests through reflections in the outer world. The Twin Flame is like a homing beacon, drawing you ever higher through the dimensions on your spiritual path.
When you first encounter someone who has a strong reflection of your Twin Flame, it's like being in their very presence completes you. In a way it does - because they activate the unmanifest - Twin Flame - aspect of yourself. It's very easy for the ego to get fooled into thinking that they - your partner - is the completion of you. And so you crave more and more of their presence.
What then often happens, is that the relationship gets loaded with expectation. Or else you become so close, that you cross inner boundaries which are not in the best interests of your soul - you hand over your power to them. Over time, the relationship can no longer deliver the energy of the Twin Flame, even though you're now conditioned to seeking it ever more through them. You've squeezed the juice out of the relationship and it becomes like a drug that can never fulfill. To challenge you even more, now the Twin Flame is lost and buried in the inner density, which you steadily heap more and more layers on. But when the soul is yearning, at this point, what may often happen is some kind of 'accident', so as to separate the energy of the partners, get you feeling more into the body again (like the sacrum for instance) and begin the journey back to the source, back to the Twin Flame, inside yourself.
I find this coldplay video captures the idea of it absolutely perfectly. The character of the movie finds himself asleep in society, but then wakes up, whereupon the pull takes him on a journey back through the challenges of his life, crossing through the densities (where he crosses the railway lines), back toward the start, where an 'accident' separated him from his Twin Flame...
So the question is, how do you recover this aspect of yourself?
Firstly let me ask you this rhetorical question: when you love someone, where is the love experienced?
Of course the love is experienced inside of you. That means the love is inside of you - NOT inside of them. That means it is YOUR love. That means it is SELF love - love of the One Self, but experienced inside of you. That means it is yours. It was, and is, always there, and can be activated ultimately at will - you've just chosen to lose it in the illusion of someone else.
Next begin with the Breakthrough Breathing Meditation (or something like it). Once you've mastered the breathing to a degree, and can attune to the soul inside, picture the image of the person to whom you lost your energy, or any other person that activates that loving passion within. Now breathe the energy out into the vision, but most importantly, continue the loop of energy back toward and inside of yourself. You're breathing a 'kundalini' loop of energy out and back in.
If that partner no longer becomes accessible to you as a reflection of the Twin Flame energy (because you've separated), then watch the image of them progressively disappear - like sunshine through mist - as you take the energy back inside of yourself. Feel the energy, as much as you can, whole and complete inside of you. Now take yourself out and look for manifestations of it in the field around you - a bird, a flower, the breeze on your face, the sun shining through trees, or else the image - the dream - of another person, on a magazine, a billboard or in a movie, and yet all the while, returning the energy back inside yourself.
As you master this application of kundalini, you become less and less attached to needing your Twin Flame to appear in a particular way. Then suddenly a miracle happens:
When you first encounter someone who has a strong reflection of your Twin Flame, it's like being in their very presence completes you. In a way it does - because they activate the unmanifest - Twin Flame - aspect of yourself. It's very easy for the ego to get fooled into thinking that they - your partner - is the completion of you. And so you crave more and more of their presence.
What then often happens, is that the relationship gets loaded with expectation. Or else you become so close, that you cross inner boundaries which are not in the best interests of your soul - you hand over your power to them. Over time, the relationship can no longer deliver the energy of the Twin Flame, even though you're now conditioned to seeking it ever more through them. You've squeezed the juice out of the relationship and it becomes like a drug that can never fulfill. To challenge you even more, now the Twin Flame is lost and buried in the inner density, which you steadily heap more and more layers on. But when the soul is yearning, at this point, what may often happen is some kind of 'accident', so as to separate the energy of the partners, get you feeling more into the body again (like the sacrum for instance) and begin the journey back to the source, back to the Twin Flame, inside yourself.
I find this coldplay video captures the idea of it absolutely perfectly. The character of the movie finds himself asleep in society, but then wakes up, whereupon the pull takes him on a journey back through the challenges of his life, crossing through the densities (where he crosses the railway lines), back toward the start, where an 'accident' separated him from his Twin Flame...
So the question is, how do you recover this aspect of yourself?
Firstly let me ask you this rhetorical question: when you love someone, where is the love experienced?
Of course the love is experienced inside of you. That means the love is inside of you - NOT inside of them. That means it is YOUR love. That means it is SELF love - love of the One Self, but experienced inside of you. That means it is yours. It was, and is, always there, and can be activated ultimately at will - you've just chosen to lose it in the illusion of someone else.
Next begin with the Breakthrough Breathing Meditation (or something like it). Once you've mastered the breathing to a degree, and can attune to the soul inside, picture the image of the person to whom you lost your energy, or any other person that activates that loving passion within. Now breathe the energy out into the vision, but most importantly, continue the loop of energy back toward and inside of yourself. You're breathing a 'kundalini' loop of energy out and back in.
If that partner no longer becomes accessible to you as a reflection of the Twin Flame energy (because you've separated), then watch the image of them progressively disappear - like sunshine through mist - as you take the energy back inside of yourself. Feel the energy, as much as you can, whole and complete inside of you. Now take yourself out and look for manifestations of it in the field around you - a bird, a flower, the breeze on your face, the sun shining through trees, or else the image - the dream - of another person, on a magazine, a billboard or in a movie, and yet all the while, returning the energy back inside yourself.
As you master this application of kundalini, you become less and less attached to needing your Twin Flame to appear in a particular way. Then suddenly a miracle happens:
- You discover your Twin Flame is around you, everywhere, in everything that you do.
You are never depleted, but always filled up.
