I think this is a good way to look at the situation. I experience a constant communication with this person and it began from a place of him wanting something from me, well a physical attraction. There have been many emotions that have come up over a long period of time and it is still there. He seems to be hovering even in my dream world. I use to have some kind of truth in my dreams that would help me. So I do go through this blame because I am unsure how to handle this. Much of what I've read tell me that I have to focus on myself and build these skills. I have chosen to concentrate on that and change my own environment to invite new opportunities. I think the best advice in the article is that you can hold space for someone without getting emotionally involved. I do believe empathy is a gift and am drawn to learn much more about these unexplainable experiences. I hope to find someone to discuss these thing with in person. I am in California if you have any suggestions. Thank you