Yes I recognise the speed issue very well indeed :wink: To be a really good catalyst is to be very clear inside. Otherwise the risk is that it looks as if you are being the cause of what is happening - this can foster resentment and negativity towards you. Yes it is a matter of practice and most certainly watching your own 'stuff' in it. But neither is it being afraid to be an instrument of confrontation. So for me it's about holding both in equal measure. I notice these 'hair-line-trigger' situations where I feel to do something but notice it's all about managing ('controling') the level of response. So I immediately sense right action and allow that to flow with focus, but then I'm watching with as much sensitivity as I can whilst acting. I don't claim to be perfect! This is something I'm working on myself right now. One thing I do know, is that it doesn't help to constrain or limit oneself, but to be very open to conciliation if you tread too hard on someone's toes! Open