Good point Marije! I was later thinking about this as well, that the other end must attract these kind of projections for a reason too and how the post seems to be one-sided in this. In Open's case it's probably not too distorted, but I think it can be an equally distorted need to take care or 'save' someone. Also, what I noticed can happen at the same time in this dynamic in men (I'm talking from my experience here but gender doesn't necessarily play a fixed role), is that they have projected a perfect mother figure on a woman and are hoping that that will reveal itself once they have done enough 'saving'.